The Bouncing Ball

I had been reading in Ecclesiastes lately and one of the verses got me to thinking about what I had accomplished in my years of working and what got sacrificed over the years because I was working; and so I thought I would write down some of my thoughts hoping that my children will learn from my mistakes and make wiser choices than I did.

Anyway this is the verse that started me thinking. “Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 2:11 NIV)

There are “seasons” in life when ones work requires more of us than it does at other times. As a father working to provide a home, food and “things” for the family and as the soul provider for the family that season seemed like everyday.

Here are some examples just to try and clarify what I am trying to say. There is tax season for the accountant. Where Christmas season for the person working in retail is like no other time of the year. Whatever your line of work you choose, it likely has a natural rhythm that spikes at certain times of the year.

But increasingly in our success-driven culture, busy seasons have run together into all seasons. We have allowed the pace to perpetuate itself, driving us at full throttle month after month, year after year. Things may begin to come totally unraveled at home, even in your marriage; in your relationship with your children. It can happen, seemingly, in the blink of an eye.

I read an article a while back about a commencement address attributed to Brian Dyson, who held several senior management positions with Coca-Cola during his long career. He told a class of Georgia Tech graduates, "Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life." Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca-Cola Enterprises, 1959-1994

While you may not get as many pats on the back for being at home to wash and dry the dishes; settle a disagreement; help your children with homework or study for a test. You may not receive the same sense of affirmation you feel from accomplishing a work goal or achieving recognition among your peers.

You will however be living proof that winning at home first is the key to winning anything of lasting value. This is something that you will never receive from your work or any where else you might choose to spend your time.

Marriages and families do not bounce. They shatter and they will have an impact on your family for generations. Spend your time wisely…you rarely get a second chance to do it again; spend your time where it will make a difference in eternity and not be forgotten the moment that you walk out the door and leave work.

During all my working years I had planned on doing so many things when I retired and then shortly after I retired my health, cancer in particular, change many of those “dreams” and now I regret not doing some of those things when I could have and enjoyed them with my family.

So do not put off doing what you and your family enjoys doing because you never know what may happen later on. Build memories into the lives of your children, they will last a lifetime, what you did or what you achieved at work they will never remember, they will only remember what they did not get to do.

So with all that said my pray for my children this Father's Day is that they posses the ability to juggle well . . . and to know which balls can be dropped and when they can be dropped without causing major or eternal damage.

Fabulous Friday

When I woke up this morning the sun was shinning so brightly that I thought that it was later than it was. It was actually about the same time that I normally get up on this morning there were no clouds to block the sunshine.

So after eating breakfast and reading the paper I picked up and shook out the kitchen and mud room rugs then put them into the washer and while they were washing I swept the floors in the kitchen and mud room. After finishing that I vacuumed the downstairs carpeting. Kathleen had come downstairs and said that she wanted me to go with her to Montivilla Sewing Center, so I told her that after I finished mowing the front lawn I would go with her.

She needed to eat breakfast and get dressed so I knew that I could get that done in time. So after mowing I got out my blower and air swept the driveway, walkway and all around the edge of the lawn. Kathleen was still not ready to go when I came in but when she came downstairs she said that it might take longer than I would want to stay there so she was going to go by herself.

So I helped her load her sewing machine, baby lock and embroidery attachment into the back of her SUV and she took off. Since I had worked up a pretty good sweat I cleaned up a bit and then went back outside and dead headed the roses and pulled some weeds.

After doing that for a while I decided to go inside clean up and make myself some lunch. Then after cleaning up I got the mail and since most of it was junk I recycled it. I did get my portfolio statements and I did rather well this month.

I had taken out about thirty thousand to put into a more easily accessible account so that is what we will live on plus the interest that it draws for the next hopefully year or as close to that as we can. I can always draw more out of it if I need to but it does not make me as much money as if I left it in the different stocks.

As it was even after taking that much money out I still had more money in my accounts than I had at the start of last month, so I feel pretty good about that. Kathleen came home shortly after I got done plotting my stocks progress; I do that every months so that it is easier for me to decided which ones to keep and which ones I need to see about replacing with something that is going to make me more money.

I am beginning to sound like I know what I am doing, whether or not I do, at least I am having fun doing it. It is kind of a challenge knowing that I am probably not going to be adding to the over all around other than what I can make in the increased value of the individual stocks, funds and bonds.

I hate to leave too much in my cash equivalent funds as I do not make much money on them, but I need something to live on and the other trick is to figure at what time it is a good time to take it out of the money making investments so as to make it less painful.

After I add the amounts in the data base it updates my charts so that I can plot out how each investment is doing either since the last month or last year or last five years or what ever I choose. I am surprised that the last year has been a steady rise which compared to the market in general it is doing much better; I guess that is why I pay someone to help me manage it.

After Kathleen ate something for lunch we took off; we needed to return some things at BiMart, feed Aaron and Tami's animals, and then find a new faucet for the kitchen sink and get some Scott's lawn fertilizer.

So after feeding the animals and playing catch with Archie until he wore out, we proceeded to Wal-Mart as Kathleen to check there first. We did not find a faucet there so we took off for Lowe's. We found a faucet that was not too expensive as I am planning on replacing it when we remodel later on this year. I also picked up the Scott's fertilizer there.

On the way home from Lowe's we stopped off at Backyard Bird Shop and picked up some bird seed for our feeder as we were out of it. Then we finally started back home and Kathleen wanted to stop off at the OroWheat outlet store to pick up some bread items. Then we headed home again.

Our final stop was to pick up the flooring that we had ordered the other day. Kathleen almost drove past it until I reminder her that the reason we were going that way home was to pick up the flooring. After picking it up and going home I got to unload it all. By the time I finished unloading everything I was ready to take a nap.

All in all this was a really nice day and I think that it is suppose to be like this for the next few days; kind of a late Oregon spring!